Is it common for a 5 year old girl (turning 6 in November) to cry, scream and have a tantrum every single day? I am not exaggerating.
Like I've said before - girl is moody. Her behavior can go from 0-60 in 3 seconds.
Is this "normal"?
Am I completely discombobulated for no reason?
Do I need to be a bio-mom to truly understand and sympathize with these tantrums?
Like I've said before - girl is moody. Her behavior can go from 0-60 in 3 seconds.
Is this "normal"?
Am I completely discombobulated for no reason?
Do I need to be a bio-mom to truly understand and sympathize with these tantrums?
6 comments:
It sounds like she is stressed about something. Is she in therapy at all?
My stepdaughter is the complete opposite - she refuses to demonstrate emotion at all. Imagine Christmas with no cries of glee...that's us. I'd rather have the screaming and crying.
No, she's not...but I really wish she was. I've suggested it to Mr.Brady - but he doesn't seem to think she needs it.
Grass is greener on the other side, I suppose. The crying and screaming is soooo stressful.
The crying and screaming is stressful, I'm sure. Therapy would be a great thing.
One note: it is far healthier for her to express it and get it out (even if it drives you nuts) than it is for her to bottle it up.
I also think that behavior depends on the kid. We have two that are quiet stewers and two that are the tantrum type. The tantrums have gotten fewer and further between as they've gotten older, but the 10-year-old and 8-year-old can still freak out with the best of them on occasion.
We just send them to their bedrooms until they can get a grip. We've discussed that it's ok to cry, to feel frustrated, to be sad, to whatever. It's even ok to wail if they feel the need. But they can do it in their rooms, behind closed doors, until they have control.
Hang in there. :)
She is definitely frustrated and angry. Being so small, she can't articulate her feelings. Time and therapy!
Melissa
I agree with clevergirl. She is expressing a great deal of frustration in the only way she feels she can. Undoubtedly it could have something to do with the divorce, living situations, abandonment or a host of other things that therapy might help uncover and then help her express more appropriately. Every kid in a family sees and feels things differently. For her, something is going on in her life that is causing a great deal of stress. Better to find out now than later.
Also keep in mind the value of positive reinforcement (by commending/rewarding her when she does the correct behaviour), and working to not reinforce her negative patterns. One way to do this is being very even tempered (and stern at the same time) when explaining why you aren't going to do something for her unless she does things the proper way.
I used to find that my little cousin would throw tantrums, and even if he determined he wasn't going to get what he wanted, he just wanted to make everyone as frustrated as he was. When people didn't show an extreme reaction to it, and he still wasn't getting what he wanted with the tantrum method, it eventually began to lessen. It probably helps if the rest of the family is on board with this as well, so they don't become the outlets of bad behaviour.
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